Homophobia in society denies the reality of lesbian and gay peoples’ lives, including the existence of lesbian and gay relationships, let alone abusive ones. When abuse exists, the prevalent attitude in society is to look away or judge these relationships as generally unstable or unhealthy.
Those involved in lesbian and gay relationships may have greater fears of losing the relationship, if it is one that confirms their sexual orientation. Other fears that may increase the risk of remaining in an abusive relationship are those of not being believed about the abuse; fears of having to “come out” in order to get help, as well as fears of losing friends and support within the lesbian/gay communities.
Abuse in same-sex relationships can take on the forms of physical, sexual, psychological/emotional, financial abuse and/or neglect.